You’re not that happy in your job, you may be stuck, and for sure you are exhausted, frustrated, and not thinking straight about the whole thing. And your friends and family aren’t giving you brilliant advice either.
It might be time to slow down and ask yourself a few questions.
My favorite that I love to ask my clients is: What does success mean to you — right now, in this season of your life?
Our definition of success changes over time and you may not have stopped to think about it for awhile – what it means to you right now. Not what you thought when you were young, fresh in the job, not what your parents meant for you and especially not what you ‘should’ be doing. Sit with it for awhile and see what comes up.
Once that’s clear, here’s a few more questions to help you:
What are your non-negotiables, things you have to have in a job?
What would you willing to leave behind?
What should you be saying yes to more often?
What would you regret not trying?
How can you realign or rethink what you are doing?
You can actually reimagine your role from the inside and fall back in love with your work. If it still fits.
The answers are there, waiting for you to give them the space to be heard.
If you’re at a crossroads right now — start here.
What does success mean to you today?
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Things are constantly changing out there in the realm of the Job Search and probably faster than ever this year. Here (from what I’ve seen) are the top 3 biggest changes in the job search landscape lately, and these trends affect how people find jobs, how employers hire, and what skills are valued.
1. AI is now involved in almost every stage of hiring and is moving from a niche tool to a core part of recruiting. Companies are using AI to screen resumes, rank candidates, schedule interviews and some even in the hiring process. And candidates are also using AI tools for their resumes, cover letters, and applications. What does that mean for you and your job search? AI is now competing with AI in hiring pipelines! So be careful with using AI to create your documents (resumes etc) – keep it real, human and ‘you’ (original). Recruiters often see hundreds or thousands of applications, and if they are AI-generated, they don’t particularly like it. And many have just stopped looking at them altogether. Don’t just apply for a position, send your docs in and leave it at that. There is lots you can do to raise yourself above the noise.
2. Skills-based hiring is slowly replacing degree-based hiring – employers are focusing more on what you can do rather than what degree you have – which is good news! Some employers now explicitly prefer real-world experience over traditional degrees and want people who can deliver value immediately. So that means you also want to focus your resume on portfolios, projects, and certifications, as well as bootcamps, micro-credentials, and hands-on experience. And how you can hit the ground running and make a difference, quickly.
3. The job market is “cooler” and more selective and companies are hiring more cautiously than during the post-pandemic boom, especially with current economic conditions. Companies may be focusing on business-critical roles instead of broad hiring and some sectors are seeing job cuts. Some roles may take longer to fill, competition may be higher and networking and referrals are becoming more important than ever.
Changing times mean strategies must change as well. But now that you know what to pay attention to, a few tweaks in your process may be all you need to do. And nothing can replace good old fashion networking and human connection to help get you that exposure you need. Remember, successful job seekers treat job searching like a strategic campaign, it’s not just about submitting applications. It’s almost a full time job to get a full time job! But worth the effort when you get what you want.
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Psychological safety is people’s belief that they can speak up, ask questions, and make mistakes without fear of embarrassment or punishment. It’s an environment leaders should want to create because it is now recognized as one of the strongest predictors of learning behavior, innovation, quality improvement and team resilience.
In complex, fast-moving environments, silence is dangerous. Yet in my coaching work, many senior leaders still assume: “If there’s a problem, people will tell me.” (how many times have you actually told your boss that there is a problem with the team, the dynamics, or heaven forbid, them?)
In reality, people often don’t speak up because of past negative experiences, unclear expectations, subtle power dynamics and leaders’ non-verbal reactions – all the things that can get in the way of open and honest communication.
Psychologically safe leaders are valuable role models and you can learn their skills. They actively design conversations to invite contribution. They ask open, neutral questions, and reward candor, even when it is uncomfortable. Also uncomfortable – they admit their own mistakes publicly and respond constructively to challenge. Not easy but again with practice it gets easier.
One leadership team I supported believed they had an open culture. However, in confidential coaching sessions, team members described a lot of hesitation with challenging senior voices and also the fear of appearing incompetent kept them from speaking out. Some also expressed increasing frustrating at decisions being “pre-made”. Their leader had no idea. So we introduced a simple leadership practice – at the start of major discussions, the most senior person spoke last. This small structural change dramatically altered participation patterns.
This is a small example of a simple fix bringing great results and I’m sure there are tons more like that out there. A lot of little changes a leader can learn can improve every team environment and their communication. Psychological safety is built through consistent micro-behaviors and constantly checking back with your teams to see if it’s working.
The benefits are worth it!
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Most people tell me they feel stuck. But when we slow the conversation down, what I usually hear is something quite different. They aren’t stuck – they’re unclear.
That may sound like a small distinction, but it isn’t.
Here’s a simple way to tell the difference. If you were truly stuck, you would know what you wanted – something outside of you would be blocking it and you just can’t see your way past. A company policy. A financial constraint. A lack of openings. A specific skill gap.
When you’re unclear, the problem is quieter and more frustrating. Because you don’t know what you don’t know. You don’t feel pulled toward anything strongly enough to act. You have ideas, but none feel right. And you keep waiting for certainty to come before you move. And that takes a long time or doesn’t come at all.
And then something even more human happens: You start blaming yourself.
“I should be more motivated.”
“I used to be driven.”
“Maybe I’m just tired of working.” (or even worse, “Maybe I’m just useless and will never figure it out!”)
It seems that you may be treating this as a motivation problem instead of a direction problem. So here are a few signs you’re more unclear than stuck:
You overthink every possible option.
Not because you’re indecisive — but because you don’t have a clear filter for what actually matters to you.
You say you’re open… but also feel strangely detached.
New roles, new paths, new ideas sound “fine,” but nothing creates real energy.
You keep asking practical questions before personal ones.
Salary. title. flexibility. location. Important – yes. But important enough to build a life around?
You feel restless, not desperate.
There’s discomfort, there’s frustration, but there isn’t a clear “this is what I really want instead.”
And here’s the part I care most about.
Unclear does not mean broken.
It does not mean you lack ambition.
It does not mean you’ve wasted your career.
It usually means you’re growing. You’re changing and your values are shifting. What once fit you, doesn’t seem to anymore. And that’s actually a good thing.
Most people were never taught how to pause and listen for what’s underneath the noise — the subtle fears, the unspoken trade-offs, the long-buried wants that keep tapping on the door.
So instead, they push harder – more effort, more productivity, more self-criticism.
That’s like pressing the gas when you don’t actually know where you’re going. (No wonder you are exhausted!)
Clarity doesn’t come from forcing a decision.
It comes from asking better questions:
What do I really want my work to support in my life?
What am I no longer willing to trade away?
What part of me have I been ignoring to stay “responsible”?
What do I need to say ‘no’ to, and even better, ‘yes’ to – finally.
You don’t need more pressure. You need a path you can confidently follow — one that reflects who you are now, not who you had to be when you started. And someone to help you create that path and help you work your way along it. Because it’s really hard to do on your own. (as you may have noticed!)
It’s also hard to look back and say, I wish I had done this or I should have done that instead.
It’s never too late to take that step towards no regrets.
https://kpcoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/kp-logo-retina.png00Kathy Parkshttps://kpcoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/kp-logo-retina.pngKathy Parks2026-02-15 00:04:322026-02-15 00:04:32Stuck vs. unclear: how to tell what’s actually holding your career back
More about the new Leadership Mindset in 2026: it’s long been known that emotional intelligence (EQ) is a well-studied predictor and enabler of effective leadership and team performance — not just a “soft skill.” It just seems like it’s more important now than ever. And even after all these years that we’ve been talking about it, some leaders are still struggling with how to get better at it, or even know that it’s important to get better at!
When I coached leaders this last year, the focus was rarely on task execution. Most leaders already know what to do. The real challenge is navigating uncertainty, emotional reactions to change, cross-functional conflict, and rising levels of stress and burnout.
Leaders with strong Emotional Intelligence:
– regulate themselves before they lead others
– listen for emotion, not just content
– respond, rather than react
And that isn’t easy to do considering the stress most leaders are under these days! And so coaching leaders for better emotional intelligence starts with helping them become aware of how they show up under all this pressure. We explore what triggers defensiveness, impatience, or withdrawal—and how those reactions affect trust and decision-making.
When leaders begin to slow down and become intentional in their conversations with their people (less reaction and more real listening), motivation improves, conflict becomes productive, and people feel safer to speak honestly.
(When was the last time you asked your team how your leadership style impacts their work?)
In today’s workplace, emotional intelligence is not optional. It’s an essential leadership operating system.
Leadership has changed over the years – and especially from when I started my leadership journey, so long ago! After the tumultuous year we’ve just had, a new mindset is needed. Leadership is no longer defined by authority, expertise, or even experience alone.
The leaders who truly thrive now – who retain talent, build resilient teams, and deliver sustainable results—are those that integrate emotional intelligence, adaptability, and psychological safety into the way they lead every day.
From my work coaching different levels of leaders and high-potential professionals, as well as reading lots of current articles – one thing has become clear:
The biggest leadership risk today is not lack of strategy- it is outdated leadership behavior in a fast-changing human environment.
Research across organizational psychology and leadership science has consistently shown that performance, engagement, and innovation are deeply connected to how people experience their leaders.
But what has changed dramatically in recent years is the context leaders operate in:
– Hybrid and distributed teams are now standard
– Career paths are no longer linear
– Employees expect meaning, growth, and psychological safety – not just compensation
AI and automation are reshaping roles faster than most organizations can redesign them, and that won’t end any time soon.
What will differentiate leaders in 2026 is how they think, relate, and respond based on this new context – it’s less about visibility and more about impact and how you can continue to adapt as things continue to change.
Leadership effectiveness now depends on:
– how people experience you
– how safe they feel around you
– how much space you create for learning and contribution
From what I see, the leaders who will thrive in 2026 are not necessarily the most confident, visible, or charismatic.
They are the ones who have developed the inner capability to lead people through uncertainty, complexity, and change—without losing trust, clarity, or humanity.
And the good news – if you’re not there yet, it is all coachable!
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What does success mean to you?
/by Kathy ParksYou’re not that happy in your job, you may be stuck, and for sure you are exhausted, frustrated, and not thinking straight about the whole thing. And your friends and family aren’t giving you brilliant advice either.
It might be time to slow down and ask yourself a few questions.
My favorite that I love to ask my clients is: What does success mean to you — right now, in this season of your life?
Our definition of success changes over time and you may not have stopped to think about it for awhile – what it means to you right now. Not what you thought when you were young, fresh in the job, not what your parents meant for you and especially not what you ‘should’ be doing. Sit with it for awhile and see what comes up.
Once that’s clear, here’s a few more questions to help you:
What are your non-negotiables, things you have to have in a job?
What would you willing to leave behind?
What should you be saying yes to more often?
What would you regret not trying?
How can you realign or rethink what you are doing?
You can actually reimagine your role from the inside and fall back in love with your work. If it still fits.
The answers are there, waiting for you to give them the space to be heard.
If you’re at a crossroads right now — start here.
What does success mean to you today?
The latest and greatest in the Job Search world
/by Kathy ParksThings are constantly changing out there in the realm of the Job Search and probably faster than ever this year. Here (from what I’ve seen) are the top 3 biggest changes in the job search landscape lately, and these trends affect how people find jobs, how employers hire, and what skills are valued.
1. AI is now involved in almost every stage of hiring and is moving from a niche tool to a core part of recruiting. Companies are using AI to screen resumes, rank candidates, schedule interviews and some even in the hiring process. And candidates are also using AI tools for their resumes, cover letters, and applications. What does that mean for you and your job search? AI is now competing with AI in hiring pipelines! So be careful with using AI to create your documents (resumes etc) – keep it real, human and ‘you’ (original). Recruiters often see hundreds or thousands of applications, and if they are AI-generated, they don’t particularly like it. And many have just stopped looking at them altogether. Don’t just apply for a position, send your docs in and leave it at that. There is lots you can do to raise yourself above the noise.
2. Skills-based hiring is slowly replacing degree-based hiring – employers are focusing more on what you can do rather than what degree you have – which is good news! Some employers now explicitly prefer real-world experience over traditional degrees and want people who can deliver value immediately. So that means you also want to focus your resume on portfolios, projects, and certifications, as well as bootcamps, micro-credentials, and hands-on experience. And how you can hit the ground running and make a difference, quickly.
3. The job market is “cooler” and more selective and companies are hiring more cautiously than during the post-pandemic boom, especially with current economic conditions. Companies may be focusing on business-critical roles instead of broad hiring and some sectors are seeing job cuts. Some roles may take longer to fill, competition may be higher and networking and referrals are becoming more important than ever.
Changing times mean strategies must change as well. But now that you know what to pay attention to, a few tweaks in your process may be all you need to do. And nothing can replace good old fashion networking and human connection to help get you that exposure you need. Remember, successful job seekers treat job searching like a strategic campaign, it’s not just about submitting applications. It’s almost a full time job to get a full time job! But worth the effort when you get what you want.
Psychological safety – a few things for leaders to know….
/by Kathy ParksPsychological safety is people’s belief that they can speak up, ask questions, and make mistakes without fear of embarrassment or punishment. It’s an environment leaders should want to create because it is now recognized as one of the strongest predictors of learning behavior, innovation, quality improvement and team resilience.
In complex, fast-moving environments, silence is dangerous. Yet in my coaching work, many senior leaders still assume: “If there’s a problem, people will tell me.” (how many times have you actually told your boss that there is a problem with the team, the dynamics, or heaven forbid, them?)
In reality, people often don’t speak up because of past negative experiences, unclear expectations, subtle power dynamics and leaders’ non-verbal reactions – all the things that can get in the way of open and honest communication.
Psychologically safe leaders are valuable role models and you can learn their skills. They actively design conversations to invite contribution. They ask open, neutral questions, and reward candor, even when it is uncomfortable. Also uncomfortable – they admit their own mistakes publicly and respond constructively to challenge. Not easy but again with practice it gets easier.
One leadership team I supported believed they had an open culture. However, in confidential coaching sessions, team members described a lot of hesitation with challenging senior voices and also the fear of appearing incompetent kept them from speaking out. Some also expressed increasing frustrating at decisions being “pre-made”. Their leader had no idea. So we introduced a simple leadership practice – at the start of major discussions, the most senior person spoke last. This small structural change dramatically altered participation patterns.
This is a small example of a simple fix bringing great results and I’m sure there are tons more like that out there. A lot of little changes a leader can learn can improve every team environment and their communication. Psychological safety is built through consistent micro-behaviors and constantly checking back with your teams to see if it’s working.
The benefits are worth it!
Stuck vs. unclear: how to tell what’s actually holding your career back
/by Kathy ParksMost people tell me they feel stuck. But when we slow the conversation down, what I usually hear is something quite different. They aren’t stuck – they’re unclear.
That may sound like a small distinction, but it isn’t.
Here’s a simple way to tell the difference. If you were truly stuck, you would know what you wanted – something outside of you would be blocking it and you just can’t see your way past. A company policy. A financial constraint. A lack of openings. A specific skill gap.
When you’re unclear, the problem is quieter and more frustrating. Because you don’t know what you don’t know. You don’t feel pulled toward anything strongly enough to act. You have ideas, but none feel right. And you keep waiting for certainty to come before you move. And that takes a long time or doesn’t come at all.
And then something even more human happens: You start blaming yourself.
“I should be more motivated.”
“I used to be driven.”
“Maybe I’m just tired of working.” (or even worse, “Maybe I’m just useless and will never figure it out!”)
It seems that you may be treating this as a motivation problem instead of a direction problem. So here are a few signs you’re more unclear than stuck:
You overthink every possible option.
Not because you’re indecisive — but because you don’t have a clear filter for what actually matters to you.
You say you’re open… but also feel strangely detached.
New roles, new paths, new ideas sound “fine,” but nothing creates real energy.
You keep asking practical questions before personal ones.
Salary. title. flexibility. location. Important – yes. But important enough to build a life around?
You feel restless, not desperate.
There’s discomfort, there’s frustration, but there isn’t a clear “this is what I really want instead.”
And here’s the part I care most about.
Unclear does not mean broken.
It does not mean you lack ambition.
It does not mean you’ve wasted your career.
It usually means you’re growing. You’re changing and your values are shifting. What once fit you, doesn’t seem to anymore. And that’s actually a good thing.
Most people were never taught how to pause and listen for what’s underneath the noise — the subtle fears, the unspoken trade-offs, the long-buried wants that keep tapping on the door.
So instead, they push harder – more effort, more productivity, more self-criticism.
That’s like pressing the gas when you don’t actually know where you’re going. (No wonder you are exhausted!)
Clarity doesn’t come from forcing a decision.
It comes from asking better questions:
What do I really want my work to support in my life?
What am I no longer willing to trade away?
What part of me have I been ignoring to stay “responsible”?
What do I need to say ‘no’ to, and even better, ‘yes’ to – finally.
You don’t need more pressure. You need a path you can confidently follow — one that reflects who you are now, not who you had to be when you started. And someone to help you create that path and help you work your way along it. Because it’s really hard to do on your own. (as you may have noticed!)
It’s also hard to look back and say, I wish I had done this or I should have done that instead.
It’s never too late to take that step towards no regrets.
Emotional Intelligence, again!
/by Kathy ParksMore about the new Leadership Mindset in 2026: it’s long been known that emotional intelligence (EQ) is a well-studied predictor and enabler of effective leadership and team performance — not just a “soft skill.” It just seems like it’s more important now than ever. And even after all these years that we’ve been talking about it, some leaders are still struggling with how to get better at it, or even know that it’s important to get better at!
When I coached leaders this last year, the focus was rarely on task execution. Most leaders already know what to do. The real challenge is navigating uncertainty, emotional reactions to change, cross-functional conflict, and rising levels of stress and burnout.
Leaders with strong Emotional Intelligence:
– regulate themselves before they lead others
– listen for emotion, not just content
– respond, rather than react
And that isn’t easy to do considering the stress most leaders are under these days! And so coaching leaders for better emotional intelligence starts with helping them become aware of how they show up under all this pressure. We explore what triggers defensiveness, impatience, or withdrawal—and how those reactions affect trust and decision-making.
When leaders begin to slow down and become intentional in their conversations with their people (less reaction and more real listening), motivation improves, conflict becomes productive, and people feel safer to speak honestly.
(When was the last time you asked your team how your leadership style impacts their work?)
In today’s workplace, emotional intelligence is not optional. It’s an essential leadership operating system.
Leadership in 2026
/by Kathy ParksLeadership has changed over the years – and especially from when I started my leadership journey, so long ago! After the tumultuous year we’ve just had, a new mindset is needed. Leadership is no longer defined by authority, expertise, or even experience alone.
The leaders who truly thrive now – who retain talent, build resilient teams, and deliver sustainable results—are those that integrate emotional intelligence, adaptability, and psychological safety into the way they lead every day.
From my work coaching different levels of leaders and high-potential professionals, as well as reading lots of current articles – one thing has become clear:
The biggest leadership risk today is not lack of strategy- it is outdated leadership behavior in a fast-changing human environment.
Research across organizational psychology and leadership science has consistently shown that performance, engagement, and innovation are deeply connected to how people experience their leaders.
But what has changed dramatically in recent years is the context leaders operate in:
– Hybrid and distributed teams are now standard
– Career paths are no longer linear
– Employees expect meaning, growth, and psychological safety – not just compensation
AI and automation are reshaping roles faster than most organizations can redesign them, and that won’t end any time soon.
What will differentiate leaders in 2026 is how they think, relate, and respond based on this new context – it’s less about visibility and more about impact and how you can continue to adapt as things continue to change.
Leadership effectiveness now depends on:
– how people experience you
– how safe they feel around you
– how much space you create for learning and contribution
From what I see, the leaders who will thrive in 2026 are not necessarily the most confident, visible, or charismatic.
They are the ones who have developed the inner capability to lead people through uncertainty, complexity, and change—without losing trust, clarity, or humanity.
And the good news – if you’re not there yet, it is all coachable!